I'm too sexy for my... slippers

"What in the world are those?"
Sean is looking at my feet, well, not my feet but what's on them.
"They're my sex kitten slippers. I just got them. Do you like them?"
"They're ridiculous!"
"They are not ridiculous. They're sexy!" I say, a bit miffed, about my black marabou-topped satin slip-on pumps. You know, the kind the Vargas' pin-up women wore, and they sure looked sexy. "What do you want me to wear — Isotoners?"
"Whatever."
Hmm, not quite the desired reaction.

I like my slippers, and it doesn't really bother me if Sean — the single dad I see from time to time — doesn't. But I do want his version of what sexy is and mine to jibe because I want him to view me that way.

But when you come down to it, what is sexy?

It certainly isn't the skanky outfits so many high-school girls are wearing nowadays. That just looks cheap — even The Kid thinks so, and I'm proud of him for thinking that way. But that doesn't mean it doesn't get the desired reaction, "Look at me," from him and others. It certainly announces, "I'm a sexual being," but is that the same as looking sexy?

My fortysomething friend Jen, who has what can only be described as kick-ass cleavage, often wears tight, low-cut shirts that put that cleavage really out there. But then she gets all tweaked when men react to it. Can you have it both ways?

I don't share that same feature (sadly, I might add. I've been robbed of a bustline!) but I definitely dress to accentuate my best feature, which is far, far away from the chest — like in another galaxy.

I also like to wear fishnet stockings, and I guess those have a certain connotation. Sometimes I wear them exactly because of that, but not always — like when I wear them to work.

And I don't get weirded out if men put a sexual spin on what I wear — I'm a sexual being, for goodness sake! I think I've finally learned how to respond to that without getting angry, flustered or just plain overreacting. If it's lewd, well, I'll have some sort of snarky response. If it's innocent, I'll make a joke. If he's attractive and single, someone better end up with someone's phone number ...

Anyway, it isn't really what a women wears that determines what's sexy and what isn't; it's how she wears it — with confidence — don't you think?

Sean prefers me naked, anyway. Guess I'll have to leave the slippers off, too.

So what's sexy for you?

And, honestly: black marabou-topped satin slip-on pumps or Isotoners? I mean, really!