The look of love

Jen and I were at the MOMA “Picasso” opening this week to look at all the magnificent works … plus, of course, the art.

“Now that’s an attractive men!” Jen exclaimed as a dark-clothed hipster walked by.

“He’s OK,” I said, although I would never have noticed him if she hadn’t pointed him out.

In fact, Jen and I rarely agree on good-looking men (we do, however, on Johnny Depp, but … duh!). In fact, I don’t “get” most of the men she’s gone out with lately. But as the French say, viva l’difference, because they’d be trouble right here in River City if we all fell for the same “look.”

I don’t really have a “look” that attracts me, although many of the men I’ve gone out with have been “pretty boys.” I never gave it much thought, but researchers at the University of Michigan's School of Public Health have (http://www.stuff.co.nz/3944160a4560.html), finding that “men with more ‘feminine features,’ such as rounder faces and fuller lips, were viewed as better long-term partners by female participants who would likely make better parents and husbands."

Well, I’m not looking to find a husband, but I sure do love kissing those fuller lips.

And they’re usually fit (although a few have had a “few extra pounds”), tall (although one of the most erotic moments I’ve ever had was with a man an inch shorter than I) and have hair (but bald on the right man, say Sean Connery, would be lovely).

I know the stereotype is that most men prefer petite blondes and for women it’s tall, dark and handsome, I suppose. But handsome is a very subjective thing.

Recently, I pointed out to Sean (the single dad I see from time to time) my Lust Object, a local guy who makes me think deliciously nasty thoughts whenever he’s near.

“Him? Are you kidding? How could you be attracted to him and me? I don’t get it.”

That was OK — most of my girlfriends don’t, either, including Jen — but, damn, there went my fantasy of the perfect threesome!

Looks alone don’t make for a great relationship, obviously, but let’s be honest here — they’re pretty much the first draw. Do you have a particular look? Has that look ever been challenged, much to your own surprise and delight? And do you think that a charming personality can eventually transform an OK-looking man/woman into a hottie?